Sexual assault survivors: Believe us, protect us, educate, act
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Published November 3, 2016
BY Katy Bergen, Laura Bauer and Mará Williams
The Kansas City Star
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The stories are graphic, disheartening, sickening and sad — uncomfortable to absorb.
They are uncomfortable because they are the stories of those our community has let down: the person groped at a concert, the girlfriend assaulted multiple times by a boyfriend, the employee with the sexually explicit supervisor, a woman raped by a stranger in her home.
They make us hurt because they are stories of an insidious part of our culture that we have failed to fix.
More than 350 people shared stories of sexual harassment and assault through a survey The Star circulated recently. Others reached out to The Star directly, eager to be part of a conversation they insist must expand beyond the latest election cycle.
Teenagers, men, women of all ages told their stories.
Believe us, they said. Work to eradicate a culture that shames or questions those who come forward to report an assault.
Protect us, they said. Continue to provide resources for people escaping sexual violence and expand access for others. Punish those who violate boundaries and abuse positions of power.
Educate. Teach children the importance of consent early, and strengthen sexual education programs for school-aged children.
Speak out. Encourage men to be a louder voice against sexual violence. Become a crusader against sexual assault.
Mostly, they asked everyone to listen. Without judgment or skepticism, politics and personal opinion aside.
Listen, they insisted, and be moved to action.
Survey shows how many live with harassment, assault
Sexual harassment is a frequent part of everyday life, said most of the respondents to The Star’s survey. Seventy-one percent of the 350 respondents said they had been harassed five or more times. The majority of the respondents were women.
The workplace and school are the places people most often experienced harassment, but for many there is no refuge from behavior or comments that make them uncomfortable.
“Everywhere; on the sidewalk, at the grocery store, on the bus, other people’s homes,” one respondent wrote about sexual harassment she faces. “Anywhere that isn’t my home.”
Most respondent to The Star’s survey experienced an assault when they were under the age of 24. According to Jen Brockman, director of the Sexual Assault Prevention and Education Center at the University of Kansas, women ages 15 to 24 are most often the victims of sexual assault but, “vulnerability of that group increases after the age of 62 because as we age, more people have access to us.”
For males, those most at risk are boys under the age of 18. And Brockman said it is common that someone would be a victim of sexual assault more than once.
“I’ve been doing advocacy work for 15 years, and I can tell you that women who are sexually abused as a child are seven times more likely to be a victim of sexual assault as an adult.”